-God revealed Himself as a Trinity.. God existed in a family, doing things together as a family

-family is more than blood relations

4 elements of a happy family

1. Covenant

It's not a contract 

Pic Noah, Abraham, Jesus

Even if its non beneficial

Unconditional commitment

Romans 5

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Stay in the marriage even if our needs are not met

2. Grace

Being merciful... Just like God

   Help the weak, 

Without Grace, there will be no joy

   Not abt perfection.. if it's by law, it will be fear.. no room for mistake

Gen 1

God revealed Himself as a Trinity.. God existed in a family, doing things tgt as a family

Family is more than blood relations

4 elements of a happy family

1. Covenant

It's not a contract 

Pic Noah, Abraham, Jesus

Even if its non beneficial

Unconditional commitment

Romans 5

A 

Stay in the marriage even if our needs are not met

2. Grace

Being merciful... Just like God

   Help the weak, 

Without Grace, there will be no joy

   Not abt perfection.. if it's by law, it will be fear.. no room for mistake

3. Empowerment

To make everybody happier, stronger

Honor each other

We will nv build anyone up by putting them up

Cannot have in empowerment

  1. Control

Let ppl make own decision

Love is nv controlling

When kids obey in fear, it will backfire cos their emotional walls build up

God gives us full freedom to make our own choices even if it's a bad decision

   God forgives when we repent after our bad decisions

   2. Co-dependency 

      Meeting needs but not needy... We must learn to let God empower us and only God will be able to complete us

         Find our acceptance and love in God as much as possible

Eccl 4 9

If one is clingy and needy, how is he / she going to help the other?

Both healthy person in God is better than 1

Essl 4 11

A happy marriage is where 2 come tgt in a equal relationship

   Have God in the centre, not clingy

3.

Can relate to one another with no pretence

It's a cycle and goes round and round within the 4 elements

Deep intima

Co habitation, studies show

Only benefit in the first few years

Weaken the love and relationship

There are less happiness

Higher chance in affairs

It's a coventent blessed by God that grace will flow leading to empowerment and intimacy

   Only in a coventent that 

How to know if it's the right person

Let God be the center, seek and ask God

Seek advice from parents

Seek advice from leaders in the church

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